Get used to it

"Substantive change is anxiety provoking-- even those changes we are actively pushing for."

Harriet Lerner

Because that's the sort of thing I'm always saying...

" People are always telling you that change is a good thing. But all they're really saying is that something you didn't want to happen at all... has happened. My store is closing this week. I own a store, did I ever tell you that? It's a lovely store, and in a week it will be something really depressing, like a Baby Gap. Soon, it'll just be a memory. In fact, someone, some foolish person, will probably think it's a tribute to this city, the way it keeps changing on you, the way you can never count on it, or something. I know because that's the sort of thing I'm always saying. But the truth is... I'm heartbroken. I feel as if a part of me has died, and my mother has died all over again, and no one can ever make it right."

You've Got Mail, Nora Ephron

Whenever is Now

"Whoever is present are the right people.

Whenever it begins is the right time.

Whatever happens is the only thing that could have happened.

And when it's over, it's over."

-Anne Lamott, Assembly Required

Allow Sight

"So love who you want to love, and write what you want to write, and work where you want to work, and live where you want to live. Do the things you are meant to do. And allow yourself to be seen the entire way, even in the beginning when you're fumbling around, naive and inexperienced just trying not to face plant. 

You must allow yourself to be seen.

Doubt and resistance will come. In fact, that's a sign that you are doing something right. Don't fight the darkness... just don't live there. Don't be bullied back into a small life. That was not for you. That will never be for you. You are brave and you are trying and that is incredible. 

I think we are here on earth to learn how to relax into ourselves. I think we're here to learn how to come home. So remind yourself that you are safe amidst the chaos."

Kristin Lohr

Tightrope or Clean Teeth

"When we make a change, it's so easy to interpret our unsettledness as unhappiness, and our unhappiness as a result of having made the wrong decision. Our mental and emotional states fluctuate madly when we make big changes in our lives, and some days we could tightrope across Manhattan, and other days we are too weary to clean our teeth. This is normal. This is natural. This is change."

Jeanette Winterson

8

"there's nothing quite like it.

people. everywhere. from all over. doing something so unbelievably difficult and miraculous. each with a story. running together. a moving quilt covering the blacktop streets. an endless stream of wordless music as their feet meet the pavement.

kate and i were walking across 62nd street towards first avenue, approaching the party, when we saw runners. moving at a speed you can't even imagine. whoosh. whoosh. woosh. followed quickly by a news camera on a dolly. whoosh. and we realized, oh that's the lead pack. we just saw the very front-runners. live and in person. i took this as a very good omen for the month. had we arrived a minute sooner we would have been inside and walking up the stairs and missed their passing. a minute later and we wouldn't have had any idea. our timing was... fortuitous.

a tiding of all the good things to come. i think.

i hope."

-The Wild and Wily Ways of a Brunette Bombshell

6

"It will always get worse before it gets better Sam. If not, I'd be worried about the world"

-Lilly '26 Ways to Fail"

1

"The One Unchangeable certainty is that nothing is certain or unchangeable."